Almost ten years ago, my husband and I were in route to Curacao for our honeymoon when we met an older couple that exuded a flirtatious and passionate love for one another. After a few minutes of conversation, we learned they had been married for some 50+ years. That’s a marital success not often heard of in today’s society.
Before wishing us a lifetime of love and going on their way, this couple told Mark and I the secret to marital success. I’m not sure why, but the secret they shared has been burned in my mind ever since.
Are you ready? Here it is:“Never stop taking showers together.”
What do you think? Do you remember the last shower you took with your spouse?
I remember mine. Let’s just say having small children in the home brings a whole new challenge to showering in privacy. Also, taking a long hot shower where I don’t have to share the steamy, feel-so-great water with another body is sort of my 20-minute mommy escape.
Flying back from our vacation today was quite a hectic affair. With a toddler and a lap child in tow, we trekked through the jungle that is the airport and somehow made it through our flights. There were numerous ups and downs as you might expect on an all day traveling extravaganza with kids, especially as it is Friday the 13th, but one moment stood out for me.
There was a woman sitting in front of us that was very agitated during the flight. She was frustrated with the person sitting in her row that kept going to the bathroom and she made sure all of us around her knew it. She was fidgeting constantly and seemed almost like she was anxious about the whole notion of being on an airplane.
At one point towards the end of the flight, she stood up, turned around and made a comment about one of my kids that wasn’t very nice. Instead of getting upset, I just took my son, who had been asleep most of the flight, and started quietly reading him a book. It was very unlike me (to be calm when encountering anger directed straight at me) but I just felt so zen about the whole thing.
How much easier would your life be if you could work from home? Imagine how much time you would save, how much more effective you could be, if you didn’t spend time commuting to and from work. If instead of taking a pointless coffee break, you could read a story to your three-year-old. What about getting the vacuuming done during your lunch break? How much money could you save on daycare and babysitters if you worked from the comfort of your home with your children gathered around you?
Do Some Research
In order to convince your employer that this telecommuting arrangement can work, you have to know what you are talking about. Spend a month keeping a journal of everything you do at work. Record things like communications handled by telephone, fax, and email or in person. Make notes on which of these could be handled just as effectively by email or telephone.
Caffeine is a drug in every sense of the word. This bitter-tasting stimulant is mildly addictive and comes replete with a gamut of side effects. It’s helpful when you learn for exams or doing an office job. If you’re used to having one or two cups of coffee on a daily basis, be warned that an abrupt stop to your caffeine regimen can result in an onslaught of withdrawal symptoms, including (but not limited to) headaches, depression, and anxiety.
Caffeine’s Sources Caffeine dosage varies depending on its source. Some of the most popular sources of caffeine include coffee beans, tea leaves, energy drinks, cacao beans (chocolate) and sodas. There are also ingredients that contain caffeine themselves, such as guarana, kola nut, jerboa mate, chocolate and certain medications.
Benefits of Caffeine
Many of us are socialized to think that our mornings would not be complete without sipping on a cup of coffee while reading the latest front-page headlines or checking up on the latest oil scam in the business section. In addition to satisfying this preconceived image of an attentive business aspirant, there also exists evidence that suggests there may be health benefits attributed to caffeine intake. Some people have claimed that it relaxes their nerves or when consumed as coffee, aids their digestion of certain foods.
“Now and then it’s good to pause in the pursuit of happiness and just be happy.”
The past couple of months have been filled with uncertainty; several life changes including a cross-country move, a new job, and exploring life in a big city have contributed to an emotional rollercoaster. This past week, everything came to a head as I began to experience a prolonged attack of stress-induced nausea and loss of appetite.
After feeling crummy for a couple of days, I caught myself getting wrapped up in feeling sick. I took a moment to pause and think about all of the things I’m thankful for.
My loving family, amazing husband and kids, thoughtful friends, watching the sunrise, and the opportunity to explore a new city all immediately came to mind.
Yesterday was an extreme case of Buyer’s Remorse for me. I typed up a blog post. Saved it. Reread it. Saved it. Read it again. And then finally hit the publish button.I immediately felt torn. Should I have published the post? Should I have just kept it to myself? It was a post about my dream of being a millionaire with regrets of being a mom when I was still a young girl. I am still working towards my GED using these awesome and free BestGEDClasses video courses.
The first few comments made me feel proud of taking the risk and publishing my true and honest opinions on my blog. And then I got some comments that made me wretched and heartsick and physically nauseous. I should have kept that post to myself. I shouldn’t have hit publish. We’re all just moms doing our best to survive, so why would I add fuel to a fire of controversy?
I unpublished this post, I disabled all comments and then I got angry. Really angry. It’s MY BLOG. Who cares what anyone else thinks? I don’t blog for anyone but myself. I do love readers and comments, but in the end this is for me. Did I get some hurrahs from readers? Great! Did I possibly alienate myself from some others? Maybe. In the end, it doesn’t matter.
Male enhancement commercials really bother me. And not just for the traditional reasons that you might expect, like how they inappropriately pop up on your screen when you’re innocently sitting in the afternoon watching TV or how creepy they are depicting a man with a monstrous smile surrounded by a bunch of googly-eyed women, and not even because of the male voice-overs that talk about how great they are when you’re in “the right mood” or for when you’re ready for some “adult intimacy.”
Yikes! And double Yikes. No, these are not the reasons that these commercials really bother me. And I am not the only one!
Technology can provide all the abundance we can imagine. Yet, ultimately, we only have so much time – a relative blink of the eye – to enjoy it. In the 22nd century, businesses that understand this, that help their customers manage this most finite and precious resource, will flourish. Expect to see new types of companies playing new roles in our lives because of the growing value we will place on our time.
Today the feeling of time deprivation is epidemic, but here is a paradox: in reality this feeling is illusory. Not only is your life expectancy greater, but it takes much less time to provide the basics. You don’t grow your own food, and with services such as Webvan, many of us do not even visit the grocer anymore. You buy clothes over the Internet in minutes.
So why this sense of deprivation? It stems from the endlessly expanding sea of choices: You’re within driving distance of three or more gigaplexes, each with 16 or 24 movie screens. How many reviews do you have time to read? Want to discuss cars? Once there were the Big Three. How many brands can you name today? How long does it take to visit all the Websites devoted to car buying?
Those words were said by Charles Dickens, and they still sure fit today.
There’s nothing like having a friend ~ someone you feel so comfortable with that you share the best and worst of yourself, without wondering if they’ll still be your friend.
I love having Patti and Petie as friends, but I also have other friends, too. I get to share my thoughts and dreams, my successes and failures and have lots of fun with all kinds of people.
By having friends outside of my family, I get to learn how other people live, what they believe in, different foods they eat and holidays they celebrate.
The most important thing I learned about keeping friends is that you have to trust them ~ there’s no gossiping and no saying cruel things. Sometimes that is hard for me to do, but I’m learning how to hold my tongue and not judge people for what they’re wearing or how they look.