To Everyone Who’s Asked for My Phone Number and an Explanation for Why I Refused

I need a little rant now after being chatted up fairly intrusively at the bus stop yesterday evening. I’m not a shy teenager anymore but an adult woman who doesn’t like to be looked at in a certain way. Or addressed without asking. So I guess many younger men must have felt like rejected by me.

It sucks being rejected, I know. You see an approachable person in a public space and decide to have a go. Maybe you just feel like having a chat with someone to pass the time. Maybe you think you’ve met the love of your life and want to take your chances so you won’t regret later that you let that one go.

Fair enough. But sometimes that person has no interest in you whatsoever, and that’s all right, too. It doesn’t feel nice, but you need to understand that the person you would love to talk to could have a million valid reasons for not wanting anything to do with you right now, and most likely none of them are personal.

So do make the move and strike up a conversation, but if the other person looks away, seems uncomfortable or clearly doesn’t want to engage in a conversation, let go. There’ll be other opportunities.


On Being Honest with Yourself… Virtual 10 Mile Recap

I know, I know, 2 race recaps in one week? But stick with me here, folks… I promise this will be worth it. I announced on Sunday my commitment to showing a little more love to myself this month and being mindful of that topic, I wanted to address the issue of being honest, especially to oneself. Quite frankly, sometimes it hurts to admit that maybe things aren’t going your way, or maybe you have to switch paths, but taking those issues head-on can really do wonders for your mental health.

Example 1: As Much as I love Powerlifting – it wasn’t in my cards.

I dedicated the past few years of my life to powerlifting. I was very anti-cardio, always followed a strict plan, and I really wasn’t terrible at it. Unfortunately, within my resources, I would never be able to thrive. My career doesn’t afford for me to travel for days at a time to go to meets, because my location is not necessarily a hotspot for powerlifting in general. There are no decent coaches near me. There are no training facilities for me to work in. Basically, it was just me, my barbell, and a dream.


Athletic Figure – Challenging My Body May Challenge My Mind

I remember a time when my thighs were their own entities. Over the last few years, they have slyly transformed into buegs. For those of you new to the term, it’s the cankles of the north. I’m still considered petite by many, but I know I’m not as healthy as I should be right now. My body fat percentage is too high, and the fact that my bad knees are aching is telling me I am carrying more weight than I should.

I have two options, be content with myself or choose to make improvements. I’m going to make improvements. My husband and I will be starting P90x soon, and I’ll be reporting my progress (or lack thereof) on this site. To truly make the life you want I strongly believe you have to bring your body and your mind to a good place.

Realistically, I know I can tone up to an athletic figure, but honestly, I never really liked having an athletic body. Sure it was fun to wave goodbye to the boys as I sprinted around the track, and I was proud when I swam a mile every day, but I didn’t like having a fifteen-inch neck, and I felt “thicker” than I do even now. Also, when I’m carrying some extra weight, I have a proportionately giant rack. I shall miss the twins, although probably not as much as my husband will.


How To Lose Weight And Boost Spirituality – 10 Tips

Everyone would like to be in the best shape of their lives. In order to have optimum health, most Americans need to lose weight…and you absolutely can lose weight and boost your spirituality. Spirituality includes the mind, body and soul connection which also includes how you feel physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally.

Let’s face it, feeling good about your body increases confidence and will help you come across to others in a more positive and confident manner. This could even include coming across more positively and confidently to a prospective employer.

There are many obese people in the United States who are experiencing failing health and who also lack a sense of well-being and positive spirituality. We suffer from too much of a good thing. And, an obese person’s opportunities can be hampered, thwarted and limited.

Insecurities and the lack of self-confidence can be translated into missed opportunity such as being turned down for a job or passed over when it comes to getting a promotion. Yes, there is obesity discrimination in the workplace.


Can you say the words “I Love You”?

Almost ten years ago, my husband and I were in route to Curacao for our honeymoon when we met an older couple that exuded a flirtatious and passionate love for one another.  After a few minutes of conversation, we learned they had been married for some 50+ years.  That’s a marital success not often heard of in today’s society.

Before wishing us a lifetime of love and going on their way, this couple told Mark and I the secret to marital success.  I’m not sure why, but the secret they shared has been burned in my mind ever since.

Are you ready? Here it is: “Never stop taking showers together.”

What do you think? Do you remember the last shower you took with your spouse?

I remember mine.  Let’s just say having small children in the home brings a whole new challenge to showering in privacy.  Also, taking a long hot shower where I don’t have to share the steamy, feel-so-great water with another body is sort of my 20-minute mommy escape.


Guilt Free Vacation?

I’m so tired that my body aches. I had one of those days at work that makes you want to quit at that very moment.

The day was full of frustration, unreasonable deadlines and demands, and several little snide comments (including a few about the fact that I’ll be on vacation next week).

A few times during the day I even started daydreaming about all the things I would say to my boss if I was actually nuts enough to dramatically quit and leave for good right there and then!

But of course, I didn’t quit. Instead, I swallowed my anger and frustration and got through the day. I then came home so beat up, that I was almost numb to my sweet boys’ smiles.

That is almost, because as any mom knows, your child’s smile (especially if it’s the toothy toddler kind) can melt even the biggest iceberg of a mood.


Like Water Off A Duck’s Back

Flying back from our vacation today was quite a hectic affair. With a toddler and a lap child in tow, we trekked through the jungle that is the airport and somehow made it through our flights. There were numerous ups and downs as you might expect on an all day traveling extravaganza with kids, especially as it is Friday the 13th,  but one moment stood out for me.

There was a woman sitting in front of us that was very agitated during the flight. She was frustrated with the person sitting in her row that kept going to the bathroom and she made sure all of us around her knew it. She was fidgeting constantly and seemed almost like she was anxious about the whole notion of being on an airplane.

At one point towards the end of the flight, she stood up, turned around and made a comment about one of my kids that wasn’t very nice. Instead of getting upset, I just took my son, who had been asleep most of the flight, and started quietly reading him a book. It was very unlike me (to be calm when encountering anger directed straight at me) but I just felt so zen about the whole thing.


My Buyer’s Remorse

Yesterday was an extreme case of Buyer’s Remorse for me.  I typed up a blog post.  Saved it.  Reread it.  Saved it.  Read it again.  And then finally hit the publish button.I immediately felt torn.  Should I have published the post?  Should I have just kept it to myself? It was a post about my dream of being a millionaire with regrets of being a mom when I was still a young girl. I am still working towards my GED using these awesome and free BestGEDClasses video courses.

The first few comments made me feel proud of taking the risk and publishing my true and honest opinions on my blog.  And then I got some comments that made me wretched and heartsick and physically nauseous.  I should have kept that post to myself.  I shouldn’t have hit publish.  We’re all just moms doing our best to survive, so why would I add fuel to a fire of controversy?

I unpublished this post, I disabled all comments and then I got angry.  Really angry.  It’s MY BLOG.  Who cares what anyone else thinks?  I don’t blog for anyone but myself.  I do love readers and comments, but in the end this is for me.  Did I get some hurrahs from readers?  Great!  Did I possibly alienate myself from some others?  Maybe.  In the end, it doesn’t matter.


Side Effects and Benefits of Caffeine

Caffeine is a drug in every sense of the word. This bitter-tasting stimulant is mildly addictive and comes replete with a gamut of side effects. It’s helpful when you learn for exams or doing an office job. If you’re used to having one or two cups of coffee on a daily basis, be warned that an abrupt stop to your caffeine regimen can result in an onslaught of withdrawal symptoms, including (but not limited to) headaches, depression, and anxiety.

Caffeine’s Sources
Caffeine dosage varies depending on its source. Some of the most popular sources of caffeine include coffee beans, tea leaves, energy drinks, cacao beans (chocolate) and sodas. There are also ingredients that contain caffeine themselves, such as guarana, kola nut, jerboa mate, chocolate and certain medications.

Benefits of Caffeine
Many of us are socialized to think that our mornings would not be complete without sipping on a cup of coffee while reading the latest front-page headlines or checking up on the latest oil scam in the business section. In addition to satisfying this preconceived image of an attentive business aspirant, there also exists evidence that suggests there may be health benefits attributed to caffeine intake. Some people have claimed that it relaxes their nerves or when consumed as coffee, aids their digestion of certain foods.


The Art of Gratitude

“Now and then it’s good to pause in the pursuit of happiness and just be happy.”

The past couple of months have been filled with uncertainty; several life changes including a cross-country move, a new job, and exploring life in a big city have contributed to an emotional rollercoaster. This past week, everything came to a head as I began to experience a prolonged attack of stress-induced nausea and loss of appetite.

After feeling crummy for a couple of days, I caught myself getting wrapped up in feeling sick. I took a moment to pause and think about all of the things I’m thankful for.

My loving family, amazing husband and kids, thoughtful friends, watching the sunrise, and the opportunity to explore a new city all immediately came to mind.